Mend: Self Care For Breakups Reviews

by ChrisDawg00

Mend was recommended to me during a session I had with a counselor on a text hotline. I really am struggling and I was hopeful for Mend. You take a lil questionnaire explaining your situation so Mend can accommodate to yours. So far so good. As soon as I got that done I had to rate my mood for that day, listen to maybe a 5 min recording, and journal how I felt and what I wanted to accomplish in Mend . First day done, nice. Now, after the first day you have to subscribe for the recordings which I find really upsetting. Without the recordings all you can do is track your mood and how many days it’s been since the breakup. You can still journal too but what’s the point if you’re not really getting any advice, I might as well type out my feelings somewhere else. Basically, if you want actual help you have to pay a good amount to receive it.

by Bellesandbows

I wanted to like Mend, and some people actually recommended it to me. However, it is SO EXPENSIVE, and I felt like the sessions got worse and more generic AFTER I spent the money. It also isn’t clear up front that the first seven days are free. I thought I had to make a decision after the first training, and I was in such a bad place that I just signed up and spent the money. I feel like Mend preys on people going through a hard time, and once you spend the money, no one cares about actually helping you deal with what you’re going through. There’s also no way to get a refund. I tried to push through since I spent $110, but the last few “sessions” have been generic and entirely not applicable to my situation in any way.

It’s basically a bunch of 3-5 minute podcasts that I feel like you could find for much cheaper anywhere, and the rest of the content isn’t any better than what you could find on elite daily or the Odyssey. Very disappointed and would not recommend.

by Qwertbot

I was pretty disappointed when I found what this app had to offer. Forget the almost immediate paywall. This is the world we live in now, I guess. I selected infidelity as the reason for my breakup because that was the closest to a breech of trust. But I was the one who broke the trust. The fact that Mend didn’t even account for that possibility let me to wonder if I was even worth it. I’m still struggling, and I thought the stories from others might help. I know from Mend Store that the creator is female. I know I’m not entitled to every app catering to me, but the story I read quoted the creator saying how she knew this experience is universal. I have emotions, and I can be haunted by past with the best of them. I’m not a breakup scientist, so maybe there is something significantly different among how genders react to the end of a relationship. I was hoping Mend would be there to help me through that, but it seemed mostly geared to people more or less like the creator. Not surprising, but still disappointing. Good thing I have a backup of crying and dancing to songs we listened to in the middle of the night 2 years later.

by Snd0r

Poor execution... It's a shame that all the wonderful and valuable information here is jumbled all over the place. There's a lack of continuity in the program. I found some of the information presented came too early in the program and some crucial and fundamental advice was presented way too late. Perhaps this is more personal rather than a rule, but it didn't quite work for me in that sense.
Also, I think there are errors when content is being referenced by Elle. I found some trainings in which she says something like "Yesterday we talked about this..." Or "Tomorrow we'll talk about that" to be completely disconnected from the trainings preceding or following the references.
I think if Mend gets revamped and organised really well, it could be far more effective.

by Veggiemar

I found the first 12-15 days SO tremendously helpful. The trainings were relevant, the journaling prompts gave me a space and time for my feelings so I could stop focusing on them all day, and I really felt like I was making progress. Then the trainings suddenly became really irrelevant, even though I was selecting the topics I felt would be most helpful. Two weeks out of a tremendously painful breakup, I don't want to hear encouragement to start dating again, or what to look for in a next partner, or really anything about the future other than taking care of myself, grieving, letting go. I rarely listened to the trainings after this shift, so I paid for 3 months of content when I barely used 1. I wish you either could work on the consistency/relevancy of the trainings, or have shorter time periods of commitment available. Really great start, disappointing finish.

by Rosenora

I’ve been using Mend for about two months now and I didn’t have a chance to use it before the major update but a few nitpicky items:
-I hate the pictures of faces when it asks how you are feeling. They are confusing, poorly drawn and don’t display enough emotions to convey how someone is feeling that that
-what is the purpose of putting in how we feel/write in our journal/self care, all of these check ins when they don’t consolidate the data or do ANYTHING WITH IT to show our progress? All we see is a circle that’s half full? Why not make it impactful for us to see our progress in visuals? Something?
-after finishing the checklist, there’s VERY few articles to read, it was only useful the first day. It’s almost a cop out, making it seem like we are getting more for what we paid, when we don’t. Currently Mend is not worth the $60 and definitely not worth continuing on using unless these updates are made.

by Davydavywavywavy

Sometimes Mend says exactly what you need to hear. Sometimes it makes you think of things you never would have thought of, teaches you about yourself, tells you everything will be okay and makes you believe it. These are beautiful things. However, it’s undercut significantly by glitches within Mend . Although the interface is incredibly simple (it looks like a chat between you and your friend), it glitches almost daily by duplicating responses and questions. This is annoying, but fine. Today, my training was a disaster. I specified that I was broken up with, and that the reason was “fell out of love”, meaning my partner no longer loved me and broke up with me. Today, my training was taken from the switched perspective, and I had to listen to two minutes of “maybe if you’re willing and your partner is willing, you may fall in love again!”. It was cruel to hear about a reality that is not possible, but one I want. To top it off, the journal prompt was “What factors contributed to me falling out of love with my partner?”. My answer: “I didn’t.”

Mend should make sure trainings like this are not available to those who have been broken up with, because otherwise, it makes a crappy day so much worse for it’s paying users.

by Justshyisall

this app has been tremendously helpful navigating a breakup that has left me feeling utterly heartbroken. However, I feel that some of the trainings aren’t always the most helpful. For example, my training today was about “why you keep going back to your ex” and one of the possible reasons was seeking validation. I’m not going back to my ex partner and never used him as a way to seek validation. Like I said, I really do love Mend, but wish the reasons for breaking up we’re more broad. I couldn’t find anything that fit the end of my relationship specifically, and perhaps that is why I’ve found a few trainings unhelpful.

by Wale912

Mend , from a technical standpoint, isn’t very good. It can be slow and unresponsive to taps, and the UI is weird and not really aesthetically pleasing. Also, the articles, while well-written from a prose perspective, don’t seem particularly credible in terms of scientifically or psychologically advising the reader about love or whatever.

But the core functionality and its use case are solid. It’s a daily check-in for emotional health that requires minimal time commitment. It’s a mobile app, so it’s convenient to do whenever one has the time. I find the positive affirmation push notifications super tacky, but maybe they’re kind of like when our parents compliment our looks: don’t mean much, but we appreciate the thought, and it’s better than nothing.

by Jdiqncnidow

I love this app!!! This has helped me tremendously with my breakup, but also continuing to find the best and truest version of myself and strengthening my self care. I love listening to the trainings every night before I go to bed since I used to call him every night but it replaces that and makes me feel fulfilled. However, I like to revisit the trainings that made me feel the best and most inspired. There is a way to re listen to them, but I wish I could just press a star or heart to “favorite” that training and then I could click on a designated area to find the ones I really really loved! I like being able to rate the trainings and my this app journey is very personalized which I enjoy as well. But if I could just have a little folder with all of my favorites I would love that!! Thanks this app!!!!

by Marimoch

I was skeptical about Mend, because how can an app help you get over a break up?
My was I wrong!! Even though I only did the trial version, that week of advice and journaling made such a tremendous positive difference in my life. It’s been a year since the breakup, and I’m now in a new healthy & lovely relationship. But I won’t delete Mend, because going back to read my journal entries & the interviews/articles continue to mark an impact on me. If you’re in a decent financial situation, I would highly recommend purchasing the annual service. It’s hell of a lot cheaper than buying alcohol or paying a therapist to fill the void. Thank you so much to the creators, Mend made such a huge difference in my life.

by Steph198686

I never write reviews but this one deserves a nod. I have downloaded plenty of self help apps over the years and have fallen off after a couple days or have found them to be clunky to use. this app is truly helpful. I downloaded it because I was going through a heartbreak that I really couldn’t let go of, and 3 months later, I can truly say that it’s getting better and this app has been a part of that.

Also noteworthy, I’m a licensed mental health counselor so I have pretty high standards (and also skepticism and lack of patience) with this stuff.

Why it works— the practices are short daily audio clips with short journal prompts that you can just type into your phone (or I got into the habit of voice-to-text it). You can log your mood for the day (with cute icons), self-care activities, and read articles. So it’s all intended to be a short and sweet daily practice. Less than 5 min, really. And knowing what I know about psychology, that’s why I think/know/have found it works.

Also, Mend is just really user friendly and pleasant visually.

I spent the money for 2 of the programs and I plan to continue to explore what else they have available, even though I’m at a place where I don’t really feel I “need” it anymore.

Really nice work to the creators of this app. Bravo in your intention and execution. 👏

by Gretcha1

A friend suggested that I take a look at Mend to help me get through a recent break up a month ago. After a 13 year relationship, I suddenly found myself feeling very alone, sad and having a really hard time moving past the break up, especially since it was not my choice. I have only been a member for a couple days but so far it has already helped me tremendously knowing that other peoples stories are similar, and knowing I will move past the pain and it will be OK. It really gives you some great resources, daily check in and affirmations and is helping me to maintain a positive outlook. I would recommend anybody give this a try.

by Emichellemani

I just finished my first week on this app (the free trial). I feel so much better than I did this time last week. I was crying through out the day, crying in the shower, crying before I fell asleep. I was so so sad. I was heartbroken and in denial. How could this be? He’s just gone after so much? I was down in the absolute dumps with no hope. After 1 week I feel like myself again. I’m happy, I want to do things with friends, I have a better understanding of our breakup. Most importantly, I have hope. I am not fixed after just one week which is why I’ve chosen to renew my subscription. But I am MUCH better. I recommend Mend 100%! I am so so grateful and can not wait to see my results in the months to come.

by Bruceryki920

I found this a few weeks after my girlfriend of 5 years/wife of 5 months left me. It has been a great way to start the day to help me move on. The daily topic journal entries help, letting me pour out what I need to say and how I feel. I get daily motivational messages/notifications. There’s a lot of daily articles that are worth the read. I’m only on day 7, but I subscribed for a 3 month trial today. Who knows I may go for the year maybe even more depending on how long the healing will take. To anyone feeling like moving on is impossible or not even worth it, please check this out. Your not alone. I’m looking forward to seeing my progress get better each day thanks to Mend.

by Sararaisins

When I came across this app after breaking up with my partner of 2 years I honestly thought it might be kind of dumb. But the more I used it, the more I found that it was a healthy space to voice my inner thoughts and hear helpful advice. However, it was the associated private Facebook group that I think was the biggest factor in recovery. Thousands of people from all across the world who are going through similar things have a space to openly talk and heal with each other and it is simply one of the most beautiful things to watch and take part in. this app gives you hope to start anew and look at things with a positive light. I would recommend it to anyone going through a tough breakup.

by Daddy's Girl 2011

I love Mend. You have truly helped me through this pain and heartache with an honest but comforting way and I can’t thank you enough. I also appreciate the daily affirmation texts and reminders. My break up was with a man I’ve known and loved for 30 years, although we dated for only 7. We weren’t right for each other as more than friends but we both kept trying to make it work. Had I not found Mend I probably would have gone back to my old habits of trying again, even knowing that it would probably happen again. I still love him but now I’m learning to love myself more and to recognize the difference between being together for true love and being together for convenience. Thank you again.

by Orangesky38

I'm going through a breakup and I have to say the content is excellent. It really has been like a friend holding my hand through the whole terrible emotional landscape of what I've been going through. This has taught me to take care of myself, listen to myself, focus on myself and spend time away from my ex and try to heal. I only removed one star because Mend is a bit glitchy- I've had a problem with it deleting journal entries a couple times and I also wish the "recommended for you" changed after you read the articles. Otherwise, content wise, it's incredible and it's really helped me a lot. Thanks you guys for Mend.

EDIT:
I updated my app and many of the glitches went away! Also the this app team is very responsive. Thanks again for everything.

by Szarghami

I was going through two major break ups with two guys I thought I could have future with . One break up happened in 2018 and I was not familiar with apps that are available to heal me and then I found Mend and I like how every day I get up to a support where I can feel like myself and I can learn new topics everyday and practice those topics with me . I also had another break up in 2020 and the similar thing happened the break up happened after 7 months . I did see so many red flags in the relationship but did not realize there won’t be any future with this person . I like how in one lesson I learned that the future we see in our relationship is not always a future we think is meant for us .

Thank you

by Flygirlstamper

this app app has helped me grow tremendously! It has saved me from my first heartbreak- which was after a 2 year relationship, both of us in our mid fifties. So not a "typical first heartbreak ".
It has helped me heal, taught me to love myself, taught me about what actually happens to the body during a heartbreak including explains the constant physical ache in my heart and gut. It has given me tools to use to move forward and help me cope, as well as help me understand all the issues behind why it didn't work and what I can learn from that. It has given me hope for my future as well as taught me what I want to look for in a future relationship. It has also taught me that it's perfectly wonderful to NOT be in a relationship and that my single life can be wonderful and FULL of happiness!!
(Something that I NEVER thought possible as my lifelong dream has been to be in a "happily ever after" relationship!

this app is an honest to goodness LIFESAVER!! It is absolutely invaluable and PRICELESS! 💞 and WORTH EVERY PENNY you spend!!