FET: Kinky BDSM Dating App Reviews

by Agiva0033

My account got banned because I made a post inquiring about if there was a community on FET for a kink I wanted to explore. It’s not immoral or wrong in any sense whatsoever. I got caught up with work for a week and when I came back to it I found out my account was suspended because I somehow violated the terms and conditions. I reread the terms and conditions and there is no possible way I violated any of them. FET is a fluke. I would give it -5 stars if I could. I feel discriminated against and unwelcome.

by JiggyOmega

this app was working fine at first. I went through the verification process and successfully submitted a photo, but it kept demanding more pictures. For days, it was ‘pending.’ When it finally let me onto my page, everything was gone and FET was loading indefinitely. The only thing I could interact with was my settings.

After a minute of trying to fix it, I tried logging out. Not possible so i uninstalled FET , only to reinstall it seconds later. Now it won’t acknowledge my log in or recover my password for me. This isn’t the kind of app where I’d want to be hacked or have pictures of me out there that I can’t monitor myself. Something needs to be done.

by Emma/devin

All fake accounts trying to scam you for money trying to get you to go to a store and get them prepaid money card or google gift cards and give them the codes and in return you get to meet with “them” would not recommend the scammers steal people’s pictures and make other profiles with them if you do come here don’t upload a picture

by TheApplebee'sAffliction

Don’t waste your time with this garbage app. Use Tinder, Hily, Bumble, or Badoo instead. They each have a bigger user base, real users, and more features for free. Not only do they want you to pay for everything, all of the users are either old, fake, or someone from this app trying to get you to spend money. Also to the completely valid human being with all the time in the world to be replying to all these negative reviews: check the validity of your user base, realize what everyone on here is saying, and take these reviews to heart. Nobody likes you 😘

by Xstrex

Guys, if this is your thing, please beware, there are hundreds of fake accounts on FET. Ask them to verify their account!

Have them send you a picture holding up a local newspaper to verify. Or even quiz them on information in their local town, which should be common sense, if they actually lived there.

Do they speak English, use proper grammar, punctuation, sentence structure? No, then they’re likely fake.

If you try to take a conversation off FET , and they recommend WhatsApp, run away. You’re not talking to who you think you’re talking to..

Reporting profiles to this app seems to do nothing. No further verification has been made from what I’ve seen..

Buyer beware!!

by Wtxxxf72xx

I’ve been on FET for I believe a month or so and there’s absolutely no ability to connect with anyone unless you pay FET for the ability to do so. They do let through profiles that have looked at me and spanked me but only in the gender that I am not looking for nothing beyond that any profile that I noticed that is close by to me and seemingly attractive enough to contact they disappear immediately upon contact

by Small Hobbit

Notifications don’t seem to work at all. Great way to make it seem like the person on the other end’s been ghosted when you never knew they messaged you in the first place.
That’s not even getting into all the fakes on here. Got an 18 year old messaging me and in his profile claimed to be a Dom. There’s no way he’s got proper experience yet. To clarify, I’m 32, and a switch (and not new to this whole thing. Haven’t been in a proper relationship, yet, but I know how it all works)
There are also quite a number of people who don’t have their profiles filled out at all or have very minimal info in them. This isn’t helpful.
I’m not really sure why it’s setup like Tinder (the WORST thing to happen to dating apps) since it means most people don’t even look at profiles anyway. Makes me wonder why this exists when, again, Tinder is already a thing, and people are only going to treat them the same way.
At least the verification process went fairly quick.

by Eroylee

somehow i got logged out and i can't get back in with my login info or apple ID, nor will it send the text or email codes to reset my password. and i was finally having a really great convo with someone who wasn't a bot, so i guess that match is gone for good since the only way i'll be able to re-enter is to start a new profile. such a terrible disappointment of a broken app. if i could give negative stars, i would.

by Mojo1109!!!

The first time I opened FET it worked great and I was already falling in love with it, however the next time I opened FET and submitted the verification photo FET stopped working. It just kept telling me that the photo was pending, despite constantly refreshing the page, exited and reentering FET , loging in and out, and even uninstalling and reinstalling FET . Would love if FET would actually work because I have heard good things about it. Disappointing to say the least.

by Haxor10

When I first made my account I had to upload several different pictures for verification and it took almost 2 days to get verified. Then I had to change my gender settings and ended up having to get my photos verified again. It is extremely frustrating to have to jump through these hoops over and over. Besides that FET seems ok from the little I got to see.

by Deathbygam3r

FET and site from my experience are really slow to update when someone pms you or when some visit your page. Please fix that and also let regular kinksters that haven’t become premium or vip members to FET get notified when someone pms them.

by SusieQxx

Just because there are fake accounts doesn’t mean everybody is fake! I have been waiting three days to be verified. Took a pic and then took one with my name and date. Next you will want DNA. All other apps that require verification do it instantly. No reason it should take days. That being said there as many fake men on here as there are women. I deleted my first account because I thought I met someone genuine and he was turned out to be a sex trafficker and is now locked up. I now made another one and even though I am real, you take 20 years to verify my account. I do feel verifying is good. However, it should be instant.

by 67Shy

Every now and then I'm randomly logged out. Then it won't accept my password. The password is fine for the site but whenever I try to log in to FET it says something went wrong and to try again later. Then sometimes FET icon will show I have a huge amount of notifications but when I look to see views or stars it doesn't even show the old ones. I went on the site and saw I had three messages and 9+ stars on new pictures that was not visible on FET .

by Mikan024

I’m gender fluid and I crossdress
But it wouldn’t upload any of my pictures where I was dressed as a boy FET kept thinking I was using fake pictures When it was still pictures of me
And other users thought I was catfishing and blocked me even though all the pictures I’ve used was actually me I was even using FET camera
I was even verified and it still didn’t recognize me in both forms

by Suckmytoebitch

I enjoy FET very much. It kinda reminds me allot of facebook. However, when you go to verify your photo after some time your screen goes black and informs you your photo is being processed. But you can’t do anything other than refresh and log out. Photos should be verifying the background.

by 21strokes

Really great app. Way to many catfish (bottom feeders), but that’s the case on all of these kinds of sites. Pretty easy to spot them after a little practice, so not a big deal.

by CoutDoe2021

So I downloaded FET two months ago at first I really loved FET it seemed nice enough. However, in my first month with FET I discovered that it has sever flaws in its system. For example, the lobby at times can act like a mob. Where they pretty much go after newbies and trolls alike. Not thinking anything of it I joined in until I felt like it was a bit too much. Minus the snarky attitudes the next item on the list is the double standards for members. If someone pays they can blatantly post the N word in lobby and have no repercussions. However, if you role play then all of a sudden you the bad person. In my second month I discovered that you can use your points that you collect to achieve a membership. Which is great and all but it isn’t any better than a non paying member. Lastly if someone goes after you butting into your conversation when it isn’t warranted and they happen to be petty or childlike enough to report you the site will not contact you they just ban you. Over then that have fun getting screwed over. I am throughly disgusted and, glad for the ban. I do not nor will I ever recommend this site to anyone.

by IronAce73

Kind of low grade but nice to at least chat with people that message you back but should be able to at least see users that view you or like you without membership add a few extras so you need membership and let normal user see who’s interested or viewed them

by SASRises

Waste of time. You filter out and specify you are looking for women locally and get bunch of guys coming to your profile. It doesn’t have the same capabilities like tinder, bumble, or ok Cupid. For example if you specify looking for women that should be what you will receive...female viewers or women you are interested meeting in. The upgraded membership doesn’t make a difference either. Not recommending.

by Mashymay

It’s great app but a friend of mine accidentally spoke about a clothing line store they worked for and got blocked For advertisement and that’s not what they did. I hope to let people know to be careful and not speak about other sites . Over all it’s a great app highly recommended

by Imnotcryingyourecrying

You basically need to pay to get anything out of FET and even then I’m not sure it’s worth it. You can’t even message “new” members if you’re not paying for the service which is garbage Bc I’m a new member I’ve only been on for 5 days! and I can’t message hardly anyone Bc all the member are new!! Anyway guess it was to be expected but I had higher hopes for FET

by The Toymaker

FET is poor at best. The only real people I found on the chats were in England, not the USA.

None of the local profiles ever replied to messages so I’m guessing they were fake. On the third day of using FET , it crashed and wouldn’t let me do anything. Then it wouldn’t load or recognize my login.

Needs serious development.

by TankBlaze

Being new to Denver, I hoped FET would provide away for a single guy that knows no one a way to meet like minded people and community. Unfortunately it was much the same with all the other apps and sites like this. A bunch of fake, spam, none responsive profiles.

by Michaelbrian999

I have just started using the browser to open this app, FET is terrible. That or I’m an idiot, but I don’t think so because in the browser I can navigate much more easily.

by Poison🖤

So I don’t really know what’s going on with it honestly. It worked for maybe a week but it keeps glitching and won’t tell me when I have notifications.

by Cornelius B. Caufield

I checked for a fetlife app since i changed to iphone but it seems like there isn't.. I downloaded this app by mistake and i have to say i liked it even more than fetlife.

by Sophie Popek

Been on this app for about a month now as I was looking to up my bondage game, got a fair few responses to my kinky ad. happy overall so far

by Camila Dau

Yeh ther’s fakes like most apps but Ive gotten to know a very kinky femdom from the bay area, support were good when I got locked out.

by Susan N. Fasano

for me it’s the chat. so good to get to know other kinksters into the same fetish as me. Already made some good friends

by Charlene K. Ross

it's very social, easy to connect in the newsfeed and in the live chat. there are some features for people who are more into dating i guess, but you need a subscription. you don't need to pay to search and message people and you can see everyone's bdsm roles in their profile. i like it!

by Liz Desimone

Downloaded cuz I wanted to learn more about bondage and got what I was looking for, nice vibe in the chat with kinky folks from all over.