Paired: Couples & Relationship Reviews

by Mirchaney

Reached out to their customer service that you can only contact via email to get a refund as I was charged twice once through the website and once through signing up through Paired Store. I said I wanted to cancel through their website because it cost more money why would I pay more money when I can get it through Paired Store cheaper for the first year and then it automatically renews. I was very specific with what I wanted they replied back telling me how to cancel my automatic subscription with Apple and telling me if I wanted to cancel with Apple I need to contact Apple’s customer service. They gave me zero information on their own website I’m not going to be charged twice and I can’t even use Paired I cannot login I cannot create an account so here I am arguing trying to get back $57 on top of paying $37 for an app that I can’t even use for customer service that won’t even do what I’m asking them to do?! But don’t worry you can’t call anybody to complain about the fact that you said you wanted a refund and they’re just not giving it to you they’re just telling you to cancel with the cheaper option why would I do that give me my money back at this rate I don’t even want Paired I just want my money back from everybody because why would I continue supporting the company who ignores what I’ve asked them to do and I’m paying for something I can’t even use

by RacerRhapsody

1st, the free trial…. Don’t sign up for it, you will get shifted to the annual instead of monthly and boom! $60 is gone!

I don’t know if some kid in some Third World country put Paired together with AI… But they definitely have never had a real true life adult relationship. Paired and the way it structures discussion questions, actually caused more issues than it helped. When it gave you options for questions in different quizzes, the options are EXTREMELY LIMITED… for example instead of asking you if you and your wife like to watch movies and then opening options, it just asked pick a movie… Except we don’t watch movies… and wouldn’t have watched any of the 4 it gave… it should have given genres. Half of the activities that we had to answer had nothing to do with either one of us individually or together as a couple. We worked through multiple quizzes together and we both agreed that our answers would not work out to give us great advice because it was asking us (or anyone we know) questions that had nothing to do with us and it did not adjust questions as we answered questions. Nothing in Paired helped bring us closer together, nothing fostered new or additional conversation, or did anything other than cause additional issues….. not worth the space it takes to download

by SeptemberRainyDay💯

It’s ok. The questions don’t really get down to what matters. They might say something like “the communication in our relationship is great” and you have a scale to agree or disagree. Questions like this don’t help. I think it should be worded in two questions instead of one: “I feel I communicate effectively in the relationship” and “I feel my partner communicates effectively in the relationship” by both of us ranking ourselves and each other it would be more telling and give us an opportunity to zero in on areas where I might feel I’m doing a great job but maybe my partner doesn’t.

I don’t feel like there’s an “after” section either. For instance let’s say both my partner and I score low on a quiz and that low score indicates a problem; there’s no real follow up that says “you both scored low here. Here’s some ways to increase ‘whatever the problem is’”.

Overall it’s an ok app but I won’t be keeping my membership.

by Loveviy

I wanted to like Paired and enjoy it with my husband, but it just wasn’t that great.
I imagined being able to type out answers and it being something fun to do every now and then with my husband, but you can’t treat it as just an option when you’re paying a subscription.
And the quizzes that make you pick a multiple choice answer should allow you the option of explaining your answer with context or else what’s the point? A lot of the questions were too simple and didn’t allow an option for explaining which meant things could be easily misunderstood by lack of context.
But mostly I didn’t appreciate the steep subscription price for what it’s actually offering.
I think the idea was awesome, though, just a poor execution of it. An app like this would be ACES with some tweaking and it being FREE. Otherwise it’s just a waste of money and ultimately a waste of time. 👎🏻

by Fgdjdbbcuudhxhd

The content of Paired is awesome and helps my partner and I connect daily. I also think the design is very cute. I knocked off two stars because:

1) The notifications are glitchy every day. It reminds us of the prompt even after we’ve completed them (my partner experiences this too) and sometimes doesn’t remind us except for once in the morning. It also takes opening Paired several times to get it to register that I’ve read my partners response. Ideally, I’d like to get notified every few hours, but only if I haven’t responded and notified once of my partners response. Maybe I feel strongly about this because my partner and I are competitive about maintaining our daily streak!

2) I wish there were more pricing options. I’d be happy to pay $5 a month on a monthly basis for access to limited content, but paying so much up front or $10 a month is too high of an ask and we don’t have time for ALL of the content offered there.

by Kathy971

I love Paired . We have been together 32 years and always looking for ways to stay connected. Our relationships are worth the work, but in this busy world, even our best intentions end up on the back burner. This seems like a casual way to stay connected and I like how we can pick to do a quiz, do a question pack based on different categories, or share a tip. I can answer three questions at break, a couple more at lunch, a quiz in the evening and then my husband will get a notification and respond when he gets a chance and he usually wants to know right away how I responded because he can’t see my response until he answers. The downside is it charged my husband and I separately for a premium subscription. I sent an email to your app support and attached our two invoices, so I hope this issue gets resolved quickly and I can update my star rating. I’m afraid if I go thru Apple to report the problem, they will refund my money but remove Paired .

by Bsjdbdissjaijdjdbsjshdbd

I had actually thought about doing something like this on our own so when I found out Paired existed it was perfect. Overall I do enjoy using it and the games help make the experience fun and the quizzes help pinpoint areas of improvement. I upgraded us to a premium account so that we could answer as much as we wanted but the one thing I’ve found that I dislike about Paired is that after your partner answers questions, there’s no easy way to see what is still left for you to answer unless you do it right away. We’re both incredibly busy so we answer the daily question each day but the bonus stuff we sometimes answer a few days a part so we can give it our full attention, in the chat the material your partner answers comes up but it is difficult to scroll through everything to find what you missed.

My suggestion would be that on the next update, there be a spot designated to this on the home screen. Right below the daily question I think a to-do list would be incredibly beneficial to the users.

by Ohaii_pinay

I’m so far pretty happy with the ease of using Paired and the type of questions and quizzes that are given but I did have a couple suggestions:

1). For the love notes, I feel like you should be able to pick from a lot more emotions than like 10. There are so many feelings you could be feeling and I don’t think it should be limited to such a small amount. Maybe even 25 feelings would help me really express how I feel as I write a love note.

2). I think you should be able to jot down notes after you and your partner take a quiz. We should be able to discuss the questions and take some notes and write about it so that we have something to look back on and see how we’re progressing.

3). We should be able to redo a quiz in a couple weeks or months. I want to see the progress of my parter and I. Are we feeling better than before or worse? Then we could compare the results from 2 months ago and today.

4). It would be nice to be able to respond to their answers on the questions. Even with a limited amount of letters. This would be nice when we are unable to immediately discuss how we feel about how they answered the question.

Hope some of this feedback makes it back to the big guys who made Paired because it is a great tool for couples! I just wish these features were added!

by Chinesefan

I tried Paired out, a little skeptical at first given that I do not enjoy couples therapy. To my genuine surprise I found that the daily questions were actually fun to go through with my partner, and we’ve discovered things about each other that have been really insightful. The audio course are the perfect length too—just a few minutes long but a ton of helpful information, delivered by experts in the field, such as Pepper Schwartz. I think Paired would benefit anyone in a relationship who wants to create more closeness or learn how to manage conflict and communication. I would say it’s less couples therapy and more something that will prevent you needing couples therapy!

by Seamz&Stitchez

My wife and I were broken. Paired is and continues to bridge the gap and repair the brokenness. After 18 years, Paired gives me the opportunity to fall in love with my Bride all over again. Through Paired, I have learned more about her in 18 months than I ever thought I knew after 18 years. My heart knew I loved her- Paired has shown me why. Paired allows her to reveal her soul; gives us the opportunity to connect on the deepest intimate level. I can see she is beautiful- Paired gives color and vibrance to both her heart and our amazing marriage. She is my best friend, and Paired shows and proves to me why. We would not have made it without some form of reconnecting and understanding- Paired provided substance and evidence of all the love we share and allows us to fall head-over-heels for the stranger or roommate on the other side of the bed. Thank God for Paired, please use it- it truly works. It saves and it restores. You could never be disappointed with just trying it- it will surprise you and give you a new-found sense of hope; it will add so much depth and color to your black&white relationship. Please try this- it truly works.

by Dnkwv

Paired has been amazing for me and my partner. It’s easy to incorporate into your day and I love that there are questions, quizzes, and games. Me and my partner love the quizzes because they make it clear how you and your partner feel about certain things when you might not have even known they felt differently than you about it. It has helped my partner and I to understand each other better and have more patience because we feel more connected. I love that there’s upgrades available for purchase but you can still get help and utilize Paired with the free version. For all of these reasons and more I’d recommend Paired to any couple whether you’re in a good place or not to improve your relationship 💞🥰

by Eilsel Rey

Absolutely love that an app like this exists. My significant other and I love Paired and love that it was developed and rooted by professionals and research!! So many activities per relationship area, and it really serves as learning opportunities about each other , yourself and the relationships in whole. It also sparks conversation starters, and makes you connect! Speaking of connection, it’s the perfect way to feel connected even when both at work, as you can complete simple easy , short activities during lunch or breaks and your partner can do so too! One suggestion can be adding more choices to some of the multiple choice questions. Some I found to be limited! Overall, if you are willing to answer honestly, and take the time, I recommend Paired 100%!

by Cgmikos

My girlfriend and I have been looking for a program like this to incorporate into our daily lives. We have a very healthy relationship, however are always trying to take action steps to improve it. I think it’s incredibly important to have an open channel of dialogue with my significant other and this app makes it that much easier. We love the daily tips because they are easily digestible and they always focus on pertinent topics related to growing a relationship in a healthy way. Paired also features a wide variety of courses you and your significant other can work on together. My girlfriend and I just finished the Relationship Foundations course and learned a lot about how to better support each other and resolve disagreements.

Another interesting feature on this app is the Daily Question, which newly populates every day. This question is usually posed by a certified professional and is intended to spark communication between you and your partner. My girlfriend and I regularly start our mornings by answering the question, and have found it to be a great conversation starter for the day.

My girlfriend and I are huge fans of Paired. I highly recommend the this app Premium plan for any couple looking to grow in their relationship.

by Gj483930

Paired is awesome for my long distance relationship. Now that we’re in different time zones, it’s nice to still have meaningful conversations and connections even when we aren’t awake and available at the same times. And it’s fun, each of the activities and written answers is relatively quick and enjoyable and low pressure, so we gain a deeper understanding of each other without writing essays or feeling obligated or overthinking. I’ve learned things about my s/o that I wouldn’t have thought to ask about and I really appreciate that. I’m so grateful that we have a way to connect other than our quick FaceTimes where we’re mostly just catching up on what happened in each of our days. Paired makes me smile. 10/10 worth the price.

by MoeVel

We were looking for an app that would nudge us to interact more regularly, and for an app that would help us have on-going discussions without the fear of accidentally typing our thoughts in a wrong group or text thread with others (that’s happened Badie and it is so embarrassing!!) We tried so many different over many years and had already given up finding one. Then we came across this app and wow!! It’s incredible. Love the chat feature. No risk of accidentally typing in a different group. Love the way it encourages us to interact regularly (making it fun). It even has a daily calendar of our interactions with one another. Love the quizzes. Wow those have opened our eyes on the areas we are in agreement and where we are not. It’s helped us to know which areas to high-five each other, and where we need to talk about. And the pricing is incredibly reasonable. Highly recommend it.

by Miche V

We both love Paired. Sometimes he rushes me to answer the next question so we can do another. We started doing as many as we could on our own time, but the way the chat is set up decided to do one at a time and talk in the chat about it before the next set of questions and answers.

We’ve talked so much about these topics already when we began dating but it’s fun to rethink some of these questions and re-realize or see how the answer has changed now or merged together.

It actually eases my mind personally too because I get something in my head and then I worry.
Re-understanding some things, or being more clear about his perspectives with Paired makes me see how far we already came and the scale is not tipping into terrible doom, but in fact we’re doing 80% well and only 20% arguing. Our arguing can seem so big and make me feel like it’s not good relationship, but that’s more about my fears than the reality of our healthy relationship.

Seeing the smiley faces compared as made me also see how he always leans 1 smiley face more positive and I see it more negative shows how we are kind of on the same page, only I have a bit more caution and planning and he is a bit more ready for action.

We have fun and laugh about our answers also and then usually talk more in depth after; plus it brings up new questions we both think of.

by Tankeryankerbunky

Using Paired has opened my eyes big time. My girlfriend and I have rarely had issues communicating with one another but this has helped me to learn even more about her than I already knew and it has sparked some interesting (and NEW) conversations. We both look forward to the “Question of the Day”. I just signed up for the 7 day trial yesterday after a full week of just using the Free Version and I already know I’m going to stick with the premium subscription. It’s a small price to pay for what I consider a solid investment in our relationship.
I’ll go as far to say that had I found this a few years ago, it may have given my marriage a fighting chance because communication was the biggest issue between my ex wife and I. Chalk it up to life and lessons learned.
I highly recommend this to anyone regardless of relationship/marital status and regardless of how secure or confident you feel in your relationship. What do you have to lose?

by Sorbaeblack

I have been having major communication issues with my boyfriend for over a year now. He is not someone who is comfortable with talking about his feelings openly, and both of us having mental disorders creates obstacles I believe we wouldn’t have otherwise. Paired has saved my relationship. To my surprise he downloaded Paired and enjoys the quiz aspect. I was able to see his true feelings about situations that I had no idea were bothering him. The check in made me super happy to see that we are on the same page about certain things. It encourages talking points, and has us discussing about our answers every night. He has even started doing the writing prompts. The various podcast style helpful tips have helped me learn how to better our conflict resolution. I feel like we have a much better understanding of each other and all around so happy and actually enjoying our time together. Thank you so much for creating Paired I look forward to using this every day

by Geselle75

I like that you can see other people’s answers, and only after you answer first to not get influenced. My relationship with my boyfriend was already so great, a real beauty. But Paired required us to make time out of our day FOR our relationship. 1 by answering the question, forcing you to think about your role and your partner’s role in the relationship, and 2 by taking the time to talk about the answer(s) after. It’s like a mini date. It opens your eyes to many things you might not have really thought about. The tips and exercises are an amazing plus. Of course it’s hard to implement right away but if you take the time to actually do an exercise, there’s a great big connection at the end where you just wanna stare into each other’s eyes and say I love you all day and cuddle. Or at least that’s how I feel. Like I said, my relationship was already great to begin with; strong communication. I’m sorry I can’t say for a relationship that’s struggling. :/ Hope this helps though. Wish y’all the best!

by Cee_dot

It has been very helpful for my relationship. Sometimes we talk about everything but our relationship. Paired helps to guide those discussions. We also are thinking about things in ways that we haven’t previously and I personally found out positive things my partner was thinking about me that I didn’t know (how much he appreciates me and why) which felt great. I also feel like it helps us remain close even when we are apart. My only suggestion is that you should be able to discuss responses under the question not in the general chat because it becomes difficult to tell what you are referring to. I also think it’s a bit expensive for the paid portions though I do appreciate the daily questions being free. All in all it is a simple fix that has bought me and my boyfriend even closer. It helps so much when one or both people have difficulty expressing emotions.

by Rebecca Glasscock

My Fiancé and I do these questions daily and we have our convos afterwards sharing our thoughts. We enjoy the quizzes most but the little prompts are good too. Anyways, I completed a quiz today it was 8 questions and it had to do with conflict, I answered with agree/strongly agree and when it loaded my results it had all disagree..... hm why is that? there has to be a glitch or something going on, im not sure yall are the tech team. I don't want to delete Paired, we both enjoy it. BUT when it does something like this and doesn't generate the correct results it conflicts the actual data on our profiles. In all I am disappointed and hope for better in the future with the updates...

by Rambette525

I was excited to get Paired after seeing such great reviews— my husband and I love to connect through little activities like the ones promised in Paired. However, I found that pretty much the only thing available without the “premium account” is a daily question, which can spark some good conversation, but to be honest, I could find the same types of questions online or come up with them myself. For a monthly subscription cost, I’d rather go buy couples’ books with activities in them.

by Shanelly1227

My partner and I adore Paired. It’s such a fun way to connect with each other while our relationship right now is long distance. However, after the most recent update I’m no longer allowed to send notes to my partner. Every time I click the button the whole app freezes. I’m able to view his messages, but mine just don’t work. This is kind of a bummer and I hope it’ll get fixed.

Update: it got fixed with this new update for now!

by Ayden18

Me & my husband have been together for almost 8 years and even though we have been together for that long, I still learn new things about him because of Paired. It opens up conversations that we’ve never had before & it’s great.

The only thing I wish we could do is to be able to continue a whole conversation once we answer the daily conversation question.

by Iblokh

Great, practical lessons that feel relevant to almost any relationship and come in short bits of audio that are easy to find time for. Really enjoying it so far.

by CiaraJohanna

My boyfriend and I have been using this lately for just that extra piece of communication during the day. It helps us fully understand eachother with the daily questions.

by Cbird90

Great UX and design and super helpful content and sessions with professionals- the quizzes are a great, easy and simple way to have a daily check in and perspective. I highly recommend Paired for everyone to try - especially as a first step to support nurture and improve your relationship and dialogue.

by Pbz2012

Paired has helped me and my partner discuss topics we usually don’t talk about. Whether they’re “uncomfortable topics” or just things that don’t come up in our usual conversations, we’ve enjoyed being able to talk and find out more about each other thru the daily questions.

by Kate.rl

I think everyone who is doing long distance and are super busy in their life can relate to lacking that everyday connection with their partner. Paired has been a wonderful new way for both of us to take a break in our day to think about each other, bring up some new thoughts, or simple smile. :) Its a great way to feel connected and let them know you are thinking about them even while you are living your busy life :)
Love Paired !! 💛💛💛

by 13467776shhjujngff

Paired was just what my fiancé and I needed. We love the daily questions and have those discussions. In you truly use Paired for what its worth then this will be similar to couples counseling except you will have to hold each other accountable to actually do the daily tasks. If you do them, you will notice an improvement in your relationship.

by Mlitt98

It has helped my boyfriend and I communicate better and more openly. It also helps see where the other one is at on certain things!