HER:Lesbian&Queer LGBTQ Dating Reviews

by Ndoubleaz

Posted a post op chest pic as my profile pic, Im a transman i wanted to let ppl know from my scars since they often flag my account for looking like a cis man. This time my chest pic was community flagged as a nude and enforced by the this app team who deleted my account for being topless. LOL I contacted their support team and they wanted me to remove my male chest pic because of nudity?! Warned me my account will be deleted again if i didnt. So tell me how is this a trans inclusive to have my chest treated as if i had no surgery sounds like some conservative transphobic crap. this app shouldve banned the folks that falsley flagged me since they were creating a non inclusive environment and harrassing a transman…this app claims to be a safe space for trans folks who have transitioned but instead they seem to side with terfs and ban trans users. Read all the negative reviews and judge if u want to support this trash. I joined HER stupidly named this app cause there was one positive review here from a user joey something who says he is a transman who found love etc but now im pretty sure thats a paid review to trans bait. Theyve been trans/queer baiting and causing the community more harm than good. Should be sued. For the devs: The support staff im in contact with is Samantha J

by Stmado634

There are way too many profiles without actual pictures of the person, too many couples looking for a threesome, and too many cishet men. It’s also hard to take a genuine pause from HER because sometimes I need a break and don’t want my profile still being seen by others, but how do I ensure others can’t see me anymore? Log out? Delete account? And deleting your account is a minefield. There are legitimate safety concerns for queer women, where we’re already hypersexualized by men and we’re leaving up identifying details up on our page (first name, pictures, age, etc.) that these individuals could potentially try to find out exactly who we are. The last straw was when was a biological male, identifying as two spirit, very very masculine presenting, he/him pronouns, and considered himself straight was a MODERATOR in my area! What?! This is an app for women (cisgender and transgender) and non-binary people. Although stating they are two spirit, this did not feel appropriate at all. As a lesbian woman, I just want a safe place away from predatory men and couples, where I can find that right person for myself. I’m so severely disappointed with HER. Not that other apps are really any better for us queer women, but I expected something more from an app called this app.

by Christa141

HER is simple and easy to use, but way too focused on trying to get you to subscribe. I can understand withholding the more premium features for those who pay the money, but I draw the line at being sent fake likes just to keep me “interested” in HER . Every day I’d get likes from several women who had maybe one picture and no profile information. After a couple times returning the like and sending a message (which of course there was no reply), I realized something was up. If these were scammers or catfish, I would think I’d get a reply. So I did some interest research and I discovered that some dating sites/apps will send people random likes from fake profiles just to give the user the little endorphin hit you get when you get like. They are trying to keep you hooked and entice you to pay for the subscription. I suspect some of the likes I got were from other users too; saw a few that were clearly trying to scam. I was very happy to see HER removed their profile quickly, so that’s a plus. I was also please with the ability of HER to delete all of my data and remove my profile when I decided I was tired of getting likes form so many fake people. I can only assume that my data was really deleted, but I suspect they will just end up saving my pictures to use in their fake profiles.

by Lizzy Saldaña

They need to make HER focused on REAL people... there’s too many unverified people and you don’t know who’s real and who isn’t... There’s also NO interesting people in my area.. There’s too many people looking for a unicorn.. There are lots of people in relationships using HER... I don’t understand why they’re here if they looking for 3 somes... even if you report them, their profiles are still there. I reported someone twice and I believe all they did was block them from my end.. there’s no known bugs, but I believe the subscription is dumb too... I believed that I was getting the best subscription when I purchased platinum, but I needed gold to see the others who purchased subscriptions... that’s dumb... why not make it one subscription??? That way you’re not wasting our money... with the platinum all I could do was see my likes... I couldn’t update my location or search specifically like that... I couldn’t look at the people who were “in the spotlight “ and I also couldn’t click on the people who were interested in me.. so HER needs a lot of work... its far from perfect... I also believe they need a specific button (after verifying) that someone is a black user where we can choose whether we want to date interracially... they assume for us and it’s hard to weed out the bot profiles... in all, I feel like HER was a huge waste of my time... I didn’t meet ANYONE in the 2 months that I was on HER....

by Lkorlando

Let’s face it, there are a lot less LBGQT people in a given area than the heterosexuals. So After about 2 days I was “swiping” through the same faces I’d already seen, and I live in a major city. They constantly ask for you to upgrade but why would I do that when I’ve seen all there is to see? HER , like I’m sure all “dating” apps, is littered with a lot fake profiles. Pictures of beautiful women that anyone would like, but there only one or two pictures obviously looking to scam so poor innocent person.
The profile set-up and editing processes also need an overhaul. If you’re going to allow “cards” to have text on them, once they are posted, you should be able to edit the card. You should also be able to move around the photo order and rotate your profile picture from the photos you have already uploaded.
The “news feeds” do not have many participants which make them less than desirable to engage with.
So while I'm sure a match made in heaven is possible with HER, and I applaud the concept, I really do, but I have decided to delete my data.

by Jennifer!C

I’m getting really tired of HER. I’ve had HER for 5 years and I’ve only gotten one very toxic relationship out of it. It used to be a mix, but now everyone on HER either doesn’t know what they want or they just want a hookup. It’s become a hookup app rather than a dating app and it’s annoying. I know that’s beyond this app’s control, but I also have some things to say about them too. I have reported this one girl who called me horrible names because she has 15+ profiles made and they still don’t delete them. It’s out of control! Every time I go on HER , I see another one of this app excessive number of profiles. They also don’t do anything to get rid of the accounts with no face pictures despite reporting every single one. I still come across them CONSTANTLY. I get being closeted, but this isn’t really an app for the closeted. It’s also unsafe because it could be a straight cis male pretending to be someone in the LGBTQIA+ community. Also, there’s no option to delete your account as it seems because I come across a lot of people with the name “deleted”. Fix these issues and I may consider keeping HER .

by Scorpious-02

Recently came back to HER to discover that there’s a huge paywall impeding a lot of aspects. You need to pay for premium in order to access a lot of features, such as seeing everyone who liked you and having unlimited swipes. One thing I like is that you can actually see who liked you, but you can only see and swipe on a limited amount before you have to wait a day. Community is decent too—there’s sub communities you can upload messages and posts on. Bots are another issue, but are pretty much expected on any dating app. Just beware of the so-called “sugar mommas,” haha! I blocked one only for this app to come back and attempt to friend me few hours later. No idea how that happened—it’s something that should probably be looked it, but just block them and move on.

Overall, this is a decent dating app catered primarily to LGBTQ+ identities. I appreciate the demographic HER is aimed towards (since I myself am part of the LGBTQ+) and you can meet a lot of different people on here—if they’re willing to reciprocate; you can’t “unmatch” people, btw. Although it’s not the best dating app, this app is entertaining and carries with it a big community; you can buy tickets for arranged events to meet up with members of the community or attend Zoom calls dedicated to topics that pique your interest. Community is important, and it’s something present on this app that I haven’t seen on traditional dating apps.

by Every Meowchat User

I like HER , but there are some things I wish were different as well as problems that are extremely annoying.
Suggestions:
- Make the messages more clear. As of right now in your inbox the preview of your messages are either grey or black. Grey for read, black for unread. At a quick glance it makes it hard to figure out if you have a new message. I think it was easier before when there was a circle to represent a new message.
- Add a small bio section for our profiles, it gives us more to work off of when looking through people’s profiles.
- Also for adding events on our profile, let us search and add past events that we’ve gone to and forgot to add or for the new members who don’t find this feature.
- Make adding events to our profile easier.

Fixes:
- Every time I upload a new pic to my profile, the order of my pictures gets jumbled up. This also happens if I change the location of one photo. And when you put them back in order you think you have but it’s only in order to you, not to anyone looking at your profile. This is extremely annoying because some pics are older than others or you simply want people to see certain pics before others
- I can’t find a feedback button anywhere. Usually apps have that. this app has asked for feedback once but I was busy. Then later I have time and can’t find anywhere that I could send feedback (which is why I’m resorting to this platform).

by Emvrtz

First, I want to address a conflict I am having. I accepted the temporary 7 day free trial and it said I would automatically be charged after the 7 days... anyway it’s been passed that and I want to cancel my subscription. I’ve tried looking for the “cancel subscription” EVERYWHERE but see it NO WHERE. ?????? I’ve tried following the steps given to cancel but nothing.. I haven’t cancelled anything so I’m worried I’m still going to be charged and I just don’t want HER anymore. PLEASE HELP — leading to my review, HER was great at the beginning. It was something new and fun but then I started getting bored of it. The people I tried talking to were cool for a second but NO ONE has ever wanted to actually meet up or anything. The closest I got to meeting someone was with ONE person who I ended up not meeting. I feel like I get more luck with tinder than I do this app, and that’s heartbreaking because I had high hopes of being in a “my” community. Overall, it’s fun at first but it’s at the point where I’m wasting my time looking at my phone instead of looking at people in front of me.

by Kccnj2645

I wanted to love HER, it says is for queer people, however many profiles are fake, lots of cis men ( I don’t understand why they aren’t at a straight app, there are so many other apps for them!) and couples. Again, nothing wrong of you are straight and want to do whatever, but not at the expense of the LGBTQ community. We suffered enough discrimination and violence we don’t need more at our safe space. we just don’t want to be dehumanized again by straight couples looking for somebody to spice up their marriage and be discarded afterwards, we are not prostitute or sex dolls, or a cis man who insists you are only lesbian because you didn’t have sex with him. Come on now! We think we come to a safe place only to be dehumanized and harassed.
Oh and God forbid you say something to the couple or the cis man harassing you, HER will delete you for bullying even if you are a paying customer.
I feel very oppressed where I need to just shut up and smile at cis man. Is this how you want to run an app for members of the LGBTQ community?

by Pat🌚

Positives first. I’ve met my girlfriend of 4 years on HER. So I will always been thankful for that. HER is a great space to meet other queer people, and if you are in a big enough city, you may find someone you connect with. Now the negatives...the people aren’t the biggest issue, it’s the UI of HER itself. 1. I have notifications on, but I can’t clear my notifications tab on HER . I have over 100 likes that have accumulated over the years, and no way to delete them. 2.Please clear out the fake scammer profiles. 3. You should be able to put in a set location, not use GPS. When I go out of town, I still want to see people from my City. And I don’t want to match with people who are only in my area for a a trip, then leave to go home. 4. HER needs better engagement. I will match with a girl, and they won’t respond for a week, becuase they forgot to check back. 5. My profile shouldn’t be shown to people outside my preferences. I keep getting likes from very young people. When my preferences are ages 25+.

by Maxon3rder

I’ve been using this app on and off for a couple of years. It is superior than most of the niche apps out there, but doesn’t rise to the level of tinder or bumble as far as how many people are on it or how well it works. It definitely suffers from the scourge of fake profiles that you find almost everywhere. It also seems to have some bugs, a bit of a lag, and I’ve never really been clear on how it’s supposed to work. I have the free version so I shouldn’t be able to see who has given me a like, but I frequently get notifications for exactly that, and the opportunity to match with said people. Unfortunately they are often way far away.

Also, a minor thing, but I really hate the way it crops photos. Resultingly, so many of the users have the top of their heads Cut off in their profile pictures.

I’ve met some real people, so if you can deal with the fakes and the quirks of the system, it’s worth a shot.

by XS16

Finding an app that caters to a bisexual woman is hard, this app is one of the few apps that are legitimate. I have deleted it several times after telling myself I don’t need a relationship right away, but I always find myself re-downloading it in hopes of getting lucky this time around; HER itself is appealing enough to return to. Dating is hard, HER gives me hope as I’ve actually talked to some pretty amazing women. However, the lack of things you can do without premium is more or less disappointing. You can swipe and chat, but that’s about it. There’s a stunning woman who liked me, but without the premium, I can’t view this app profile and I’ve run out of swipes just trying to look for this app without paying the money. After just graduating college, having subscriptions to these things are hard to keep up with. And the premium trials are nice, until your 7 days are up and that $14 is staring you in the face. You know you want to because you have total faith in HER itself in providing you the chance to meet incredible women, but it can be a bit much for those who are wary of their money.

by Trexxrawwr

First of all I’ve probably downloaded HER and deleted so many times forgetting each time why I deleted it in the first place. Which shows you I really wanted to like HER. I really did!! But the fact that I will be swiping and run out of “swipes” and it won’t let me swipe for 14 hours unless I upgrade to premium is just bonkers. I get running out of swipes it happens all the time to me on bumble and tinder. But to have to wait 14 hours is just ridiculous. Also it constantly notifies me when someone likes me but when I go to look at my likes it tries to make me pay for premium again!! I get needing to make money but I’d rather have ads pop up and have some certain exclusive features like swiping back have to be paid for then pretty much everything. Also I know with tinder and bumble it only notifies you if you both like eachother I’m constantly getting likes and other notifications pop up on my phone with no way of turning the notifications off on HER and I don’t need my phone blowing up all day. I feel HER needs a bit of a facelift maybe take some tips from tinder bumble and hinge cause I happen to love how hinge has a ton of info without being crazy like ok Cupid which seems like it’s never ending questions. I wish I liked HER but there’s just so much wrong with it. 😕

by Ronreadz

this app is an ok app. It is a bit expensive and getting to your matches can be a little tricky without a subscription. My favorite part of the site is that I can use it as a trans woman to meet females and trans. Unfortunately, and this isn’t perhaps the fault of the this app app, it can be tough market to meet up much with HER. I have zero problems meeting up with people on taimi and in the days when I had grindr no trouble there either, and I think I have met both more cisgender females and trans on both of those sites, strangely enough. this app’s primary user base isn’t as toxic as some others, but it also isn’t primarily geared to my demographic (although it gestures to being inclusive to a tran like me). Some of the females I have chatted with on this app didn’t read my profile or said somewhat prejudicial things, but I’ve never been kicked off HER or anything. I just don’t think a lot of the women on this app are looking for a trans woman, and if that’s you I don’t really know what to tell you as far as a solution. I see a lot more trans males on this app than females, so I assume they are in a better position. it’s a lot easier to date men as a trans in my experience regardless of what app you use. However, I have had many likes and conversations and a few dates though this app, and if you’re looking for your person, maybe you will meet this app through HER. It’s definitely worth trying.

by Mrs.Robinson2021

I was off and on this app a few times in 2020 but I wasn’t having any luck so I deleted my account. I decided to give it another try in January 2021. I was only on there for a few weeks when I Found this app!! It was Love At First Swipe!! We started messaging on this app and two days later exchanged numbers and started texting and then FaceTimed two days after that! When I saw this app face to face through that screen that’s when I knew I was going to marry this app!! I met this app in person two weeks later and took this app to Pacifica State beach for our first date. Two months later she proposed on my birthday and I surprised this app and proposed right after. So it was a double surprise proposal on the beach where we had our first date!! Two months after that we were married on that same beach! It’s been an amazing journey thus far and even though we’re moving at Godspeed, when you know you know!! Thank you this app for my Fairytale Love story!!

by Butterbutler

I have long, long dreaded spending time on dating apps: they just never felt like the place where I could find people I actually jived with (perhaps because I’m the type of person who unironically uses the word “jived”)
How could I expect to find people I was compatible with on an app that was not compatible with me??
But even after just a short time on this app, my experience has felt so different and positive. Despite trying searching for queer people on other platforms, I don’t feel like I’ve matched with such a wide array of people before.
There are hook ups if you want them, but I really appreciate that other forms of camaraderie appear to is given equal weight, from the outset. If you want to participate in the modern social and dating scene, but don’t want to feel trapped by expectations that may exist in other relationship apps, I highly recommend this app. But really, the biggest difference I think is the people. I don’t know how you did it, this app, but keep it!!

by JustMeAshe

I downloaded HER by recommendation of a friend to branch out and exploring my pansexuality more than I have been able to in the past. I had been in a string of bad toxic relationships with men and wanted to get to actually branch out and feel out the part of me that liked girls. I really liked HER and I made some friends on there but the biggest thing that came out of HER is my now girlfriend of 4 months. I didn’t expect anything from HER, was going to just keep things casual but this girl is literally my world, my literal better half and soulmate and it’s been probably the best 4 months of my life. We live 2 hours away but the distance doesn’t matter we always find the time for each other and make sure we both know how much we love and care for one another. Tbh I don’t think I would have ever met this app if it weren’t for this app app. It allowed me to meet someone outside of my small town and it’s been the best thing to have happened to me truthfully. She is truly my best friend and my world ❤️

by Joey19787

I could not give a better review. I was on the this app app for 3 years. In the 3 years on the application, I was kicked off 5 times for people believing I was a cis gender male and not a trans male. I met a few nice friends on HER, from my best friend to my future fiancé!! This is my primary reason for providing this testimonial. The last time I was kicked off this app, the this app team gave me a 3 year subscription plus unlimited match events. It was about a month and 3 years later; and I finally met this app on this app. I met the one!! Yes; the one we all wait for and gush after! We are now one of those happy success stories! I never thought I would meet "this app" ever, BUT this app made it happen!! I could not be happier! My son and I finally have the family we have dreamed over and I have never felt happier. The happiness has trickled to my family and friends and we are all awaiting the special day!! It would not be possible without this app and the wonderful gift to this transman of free membership due to the discrimination. Thanks for taking care of the discrimination and thanks for helping me meet the woman of my dreams. She is a keeper and our love story will go down in books, thanks to this app!

by Luoooooop

this app is the only decent dating app I’ve used, but I’ve used dating sites over the years. I was very reluctant to try a dating app after having dismal luck with dating sites. Plenty of Fish is garbage and OKCupid is terrible in D.C. if you don’t sort of have a cookie cutter life that looks great on paper, or are pansexual. I met up with 13 women from OKC and zero chemistry. Rarely received messages from anyone interesting. In comparison I met up with 4 people off of this app and the 4th one was the charm. She’s not my future wife but we’ve been dating 4 months and it’s been wonderful. I get tons of matches also and have a lot of fun convos when I’m bored and lonely. Plus I can upload my events to HER and lots of people RSVP to my events there. Dating is often a lonely and frustrating endeavor but I’d have to say this app is one of the better options out there. I give this a 4.5 because it’s good overall but has too many bugs.

by Htisch

HER should be taken off of HER Store! This is the biggest scam I’ve come across. You pay a “premium” fee, and there is no background checks on these people to safely know they are really who they say they are! I was “catfished” by these people who I thought had common interests. They start off by telling you what you want to hear, then the sob story starts and how they need money wired, or iTunes gift cards. Or how they need to get home from Afghanistan, but they can’t access their accounts over there! There’s always an excuse they can’t meet you, call or FaceTime. Yes I am one of those IDIOTS that fell for it and I’m out $500 trying to help a “soldier” come home! I am prior military, so I understand wanting to come home. I called this app so called unit, and talked to a Major who confirmed this person never existed with their unit. I filed a police report, and the police confirmed this person was not a resident of that state. PLEASE heed my warning, and find a legit dating app that can assure you the people you are talking to are really who they say they are. And NO one should be asking for money no matter what their circumstances are!

by Dejacapri

For one my account was deleted when I was harassed by a 27 year old woman because she reported me for posting 3 times about how there is a ton of Pornographic and vulgar pictures which for the whole week of being on HER its nonstop every hour pornographic pictures that needed to be taken down even when I report and block them there accounts are still up and the people continue to harass me and not only that if HER supports trafficking and pornographers then put it in the description instead of making it out to be a dating app I would never download a sex app In my life HER needs to be taken down from HER store and all platforms seeing it wants to sell out on porn then to find a friend or some one to date or actually get married too HER wasnt like this two years ago but now I WILL BE UNISTALLING HER the people who owns HER lost my respect and my money and not only that they lost my chance to find my true maybe will never know Now And I WANT A REFUND FOR MY premium subscription!


0 stars for letting HER become unsafe for LGBTQ+ Community

by Gaysanatomy

First, I like HER’s premise and UI overall. However, it is so buggy now that it’s become almost unusable. The developers keep updating it claiming “bug fixes” but I still have to delete and reinstall HER almost daily in order for it to detect my correct location. I live in MN and it almost always thinks I’m in KS, when I’ve never been there in my life. It’ll say matches are <10 miles away, but then I talk to them and find out they’re a thousand miles away. So I delete, reinstall HER , and then it works fine for a while, but after a few hours have passed, I’ll go back in and I’m matching with people from across the country. It’s a real bummer because I used to find some cool girls on here but now I can’t find anyone in my area because of a glitch. You can’t manually change your location unless you pay either, so I’m wondering if this bug is being kept just to get more people to buy premium. Shady

by Shallwedatefan

So I’ve been on HER for about six months now and my experience has been interesting. I’ve met a lot of people even talked to a few off HER and only one so far I’ve met but didn’t go so far. HER is great for the fact you can met people but you NEED a membership to access the other features (which I haven’t done.) My problem with HER is it shows you women that you’ve already swiped left on, it doesn’t change and you will see them again. HER has slightly become tinder with the new update to it. Also you might want to have tough skin when joining ,because I’ve seen a handful of the other users putting others down(most of the time because of their sexuality). Also a lot of the feed is made up of others that complain about their appearance. The notification notice isn’t that great either. But you can meet some great people on there.

by Lilmonster1294

Overall HER is great. The features are cool, you get to connect with others in the LGBTQ+ community without feeling like you need to be “looking” for something or someone, but for some reason I keep running into problems with the distance finder feature. I don’t know if maybe one of the developers could help me out here?

Women will come up on my search and it’ll say that they’re 20 miles away or even closer and then, if I’m lucky lol, we will match and how far they are away increases by like 20-30 miles. This happens with almost every person I match with and to be honest it is making using HER extremely frustrating. Especially when you’re really into a girl who’s supposed to be 21 miles away but is actually 67. Maybe it’s my phone, maybe not, but paying premium didn’t help so if anyone reading this has had the same problem and knows a fix then please contact me!!

by JhettMade

There are way too many CATFISH on HER! It’s like the numbers increase everyday. People should have to prove their identity so that you can protect the millions of members in the community who actually want to find love, friendships and more. this app you need to find a way to help get your users engaged. Let people post videos (appropriate videos). HER is boring and every user will tell you that. It’s become a ghost town, it use to be fun and meeting people was way much better but now nobody talks just people making attempts at trying to find conversation. Clean up all the really bad negatives and improve your reach and connect with the users. Actually, adhere to their complaints and HER might come out on top. I have so suggestions I minus well work for your team. Lol this app could be so much better. I give it 3 stars because I have met some truly amazing people and two gf out of it.

by Wherearethedecentdatingapps

I honestly can’t stand HER. First of all.. it shows you the same girls you swipe left on. Why am I still seeing the same females I SAID I don’t wanna match with? Second... why do I need to pay for everything??? I understand you gotta make money some how, but You gotta pay for stupid, simple stuff with HER . It only makes sense to have to pay for rewinds. Third... I don’t like how you can’t see all your friend requests because of if you get too many notifications. And you can see everybody that like you because of too many notifications. HER needs A total makeover. They need to be actual profiles.. I need to see actual notifications... HER a waste of time. Y’all don’t show nothing but girls I already said I wasn’t interested in. 🤔 2/10. Would not recommend to a friend. HER is a mess. Get some inspiration from Tinder or Bumble.

by Ihatebadupdates

I usually don’t rate things because I don’t care but I had to. I reported a couple looking for a third (ugh any girl’s worst nightmare) and they had an option that said “straight couple looking for a unicorn” and that is why I love HER! Gals looking for gals (or theys, I’m pan, idc) but no straights. Super friendly. Once I got over the whole weird messaging thing it was great. Got a date within 24 hour with hopefully my future wifey.

Took away one star bc the whole messages/notifications weirdness I couldn’t figure out. Still can’t. Honestly please just separate messages and notifications and don’t send me notifications for messages that I send! (Honestly copy messages from tinder or bumble and you’ll get five stars. Those are simple)

by S_a_Rose

I downloaded HER thinking nothing of it. Maybe I’d meet a great girl, maybe I’d meet a hook up. Never in a million years did I think I’d meet the woman of my dreams.
I had this app for about a month before I realized none of the women in my area were even remotely interesting. Sooo I randomly decided to expand my mileage. A few days later I got a message from someone. She lived 300 miles away. We talked for a little over a month before she came down to see me. It was such an instant connection. She spent almost every weekend coming down to visit me. We fell madly in love.
Flash forward to today. We are head over heals for each other. She’s the one I’ve been searching for my entire life. And now she’s 4 days away from moving in with me.
So thank you ❤️